Children's Fights are A Chance to GROW !! [YOU are the best MOM] vol.25

Fighting between children is a chance to grow! Let's acquire the power to imagine the feelings of the other party

Whether you're playing with your friends or attending preschool, parents are worried about fighting between children. There are various reasons for quarrels between children, such as being unable to quarrel and lend toys well, not being able to wait for their turn, and being out of the group. When I see my child in a fight, I think that as a parent, I may be forced to stop or yell at me. It probably comes from the feeling that you don't want your child to get hurt. However, in reality, fighting plays a major role in the growth of children's ego. Through fights and conflicts, children experience various emotions such as how to build relationships with people, anger and sadness, so it is also an opportunity for growth.

Watch over the fights between children, listen to them and sympathize with them.

When you ask about the cause and situation of the fight, you can feel that the children have various emotions such as "anger", "sadness", "regret", and "irritability". "Well, I was disappointed that I couldn't lend you a toy." "I was lonely because I couldn't play with you. I'm sad." Let's sympathize with the emotions and feelings of the children. .. Labeling and naming the emotions that children are feeling will help them grow. Also, just feeling "Mom listened to me" and "Daddy found me sad" made the children's hearts calm.

Through the fight, you will be able to imagine the feelings of the other person

It is very important to experience various feelings such as sadness and pain through fighting. When a child is about 5 years old, he / she will be able to imagine the feelings of the other person based on his / her own experience. That imagination is kindness. It's hard for parents to see their children having a hard time, isn't it? However, let's watch over the child by thinking that compassion for others is growing. I would like to support the growth of children's hearts while watching over them, rather than letting adults keep away from and hindering children's quarrels.