Raising a Patient Child


Three points to raise a child who can endure (Patient) and a child who can wait

“Endure!”. I think this is a word that parents who are raising children have always said to their children. I think that children who can’t stand often face difficulties such as not having a smooth relationship with their friends and being unable to adapt to the environment even if they go out into society in the future.

That is why, as a parent, it is natural to want to raise a child to be a child who can endure it. Then, how can we raise a child who can endure and can wait? This time, I would like to introduce three points.

Why do you need patience?

Parents wish for the healthy growth of their children, but all that is required is to teach them “the power to endure.” If you don’t have that power, you won’t be able to wait for your turn or follow the rules, which will hinder your group life at kindergarten or elementary school, or when you have something you want, say “buy, buy!” If you don’t say what you want, or if you don’t do what you want, you may become a violent child. To prevent this from happening, it is very important to teach young children “patience”.

However, children are interested in various things and have the motivation to “want to touch”, “want to go”, and “want to try”. They are also one of the most important processes in a child’s growth. At such times, if you give priority only to patience, your child may be discouraged. So how do you teach them to “endure”?

Three points to raise a child who can endure and a child who can wait

1. Listen to your child’s claims

Listen carefully to your child’s story as to why he wanted to do it. If you accept the child’s feelings that he really wants to do that, he will gradually calm down and become ready to listen to his parents. That way, parents can then tell them “why they have to put up with it.”

When faced with the child’s selfish behavior, parents tend to scold “Be patient!” However, if you suddenly force them, your child will be repulsive and will not listen to your parents at all. Therefore, it is more important to accept the feelings of the child than to scold.

2. Explain why you have to put up with it

If you listen to your child’s claims and feel calm, explain why you have to put up with it.

For example, “Taking a friend’s toy makes your friend feel very sad. So I hope you put up with what you want to use.” “Mom is cooking now, so put up with a hug. It will be helpful if you do it. ” The more specific the reason, the easier it will be to reach your child.

3. Try to come up with a solution

Tell your child why you have to put up with it, and then come up with a solution with “What do you think?”

For example, parents and children share ideas such as “let me lend you a toy” or “hold me as soon as I finish cooking”. Then, unexpectedly, good ideas may come out from children. This will give your child the ability to think and develop his language skills.

What do you think. Patience is easy when you can afford it or when you are satisfied with your mind, but it is difficult when you are feeling stressed or dissatisfied. In order to develop the ability to endure and wait, it is important to first accept the feelings of the child.